Your Body Is Whispering. Are You Listening?

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, "I don't feel like myself anymore"... but you couldn't explain why?

You're functioning. You're getting through your days. Your labs may even be "normal." But something feels different.

Maybe you're exhausted even after sleeping.
 Maybe you're forgetting words.
 Maybe your workouts leave you sore for days.
 Maybe your anxiety showed up out of nowhere.
 Maybe you've started wondering if this is just what getting older feels like.

In this episode, we're talking about why those changes often aren't random and why your body usually whispers long before it screams.

Using an evidence-based integrative medicine approach, we explore:

• Why "I don't feel like myself anymore" is often a pattern, not a single symptom.
•  Why normal lab results don't always tell the whole story.
•  How hormones, sleep, stress, metabolism, inflammation, and nutrition work together.
•  Why asking "What changed first?" is often more helpful than asking "What's wrong with me?"
•  How to start connecting the dots before small changes become bigger problems.

If you've been telling yourself that you're just stressed, just busy, or just getting older, this conversation is for you.

Your symptoms are not a personal failure.

They are information.

And sometimes the first step toward feeling like yourself again is learning how to listen.

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Transcript

The “I Don’t Feel Like Me”

Speaker 0:00

Welcome back to Healthspan on Her Terms. I'm Dr. Sheri Erwin, integrative nurse practitioner and founder of Root and Remedy Integrative Care. I want to start today's episode with a question. Have you ever found yourself saying, I don't feel like myself anymore? Not sick, not unable to get through the day, not in the middle of some obvious health crisis, just different. Maybe you've been trying to explain it to someone else. You tell them you're exhausted, but it's different than just being tired. You tell them your brain feels foggy, but you can't really describe what you mean. You tell them something has changed, but your labs come back normal. And somewhere along the way, you start wondering if maybe you're imagining it. Maybe you're getting older. Maybe you're stressed. Maybe this is what life is supposed to feel like now. I want you to know something. I hear some version of this throughout the week with various clients that I see. One of the things that strikes me every single time is a woman almost always apologizes before they tell me how they feel. They'll say something like, I know I'm probably just getting older. I know everyone gets tired. I know I need to exercise more. I know my labs were normal. It's almost as though they've already decided their symptoms aren't important before anyone else has a chance to respond. That's actually heartbreaking to me because I don't think women need someone to convince them they're sick. I think they need someone to help them understand what their body is trying to say. Today's episode isn't really about hormones. It isn't really about thyroid or cortisol or menopause. Those are all important conversations. Today's episode is about something much bigger. It's about learning to recognize the patterns your body has been trying to show you, often long before disease ever develops. Because here's something I've learned over the years. Our bodies rarely change overnight. They change gradually, quietly, one small change at a time. And if we're paying attention, those small changes can tell us an incredible amount about what's happening beneath the surface.

Small Changes Create A Pattern

Speaker 2:34

What does I don't feel like myself actually mean? One of the most interesting things about that phrase is that no two women mean exactly the same thing. When someone says I don't feel like myself, they're usually not talking about one symptom. They're talking about a collection of small changes that don't seem connected. Maybe they used to wake up energized. Now they hit the snooze button three or four times every morning. Maybe they used to finish work and still have enough energy to cook dinner, go for a walk, or spend time with their family. Now they feel completely drained by the end of the day. Maybe they still exercise, they're still eating well, they're still checking all the boxes, but something feels harder. Recovery takes longer, motivation feels different, the scale may not even have changed, but their body has. Or maybe they notice they're becoming someone they don't recognize emotionally. They're more impatient, more anxious, less resilient. Little things suddenly feel overwhelming and they don't understand why. Here's what's fascinating. Most women don't tell me all of those things at once. They'll tell me one or two. Maybe they'll come in because they're tired, or because they can't lose weight, or because they think their hormones are off. But as we keep talking, another piece appears, another and another. And eventually you step back together and realize these aren't isolated symptoms. They're part of a pattern. And I think that's one of the biggest differences in how I approach medicine today compared to earlier in my career. Earlier on, I was trained to identify and diagnose. That is incredibly important. We need diagnoses, but over time I realize that long before someone develops a diagnosis, their body often develops a pattern, and patterns tell stories. One of the phrases you may have heard is your body whispers before it screams. I truly believe that. Most chronic health conditions don't suddenly appear one Tuesday morning. Most hormonal transitions don't happen overnight. Most metabolic changes don't happen in a single month. They evolve. Sometimes over years. The problem is that the whispers are easy to dismiss. You wake up a little more tired than usual, you think I've just been busy. You wake up three in the morning a few nights each week, you think it's probably stress. Your workouts feel harder, you think I'm getting older. You gain a few pounds around the middle section despite doing everything you've always done. You think I just need more discipline. Individually, every one of those explanations seems reasonable. But what if they're all connected? What if they're not random? And what if your body has been trying to tell you a story all along? That's the question I find myself asking every day in practice. Not what's today's symptom, but what story is this body trying to tell?

Why Women Apologize For Symptoms

Speaker 5:59

Why women dismiss themselves before anyone else does? One of those things I've been thinking about a lot lately is why do women apologize for how they feel? Think about it. I honestly can't remember the last time someone came into my office and confidently said, something has changed and I know my body well enough to know this isn't normal for me. Instead, I hear, I know this probably sounds silly. I don't want to waste your time. I know everyone is tired. I know I'm getting older. I probably just need to exercise more. I know my labs are normal. Somewhere along the way we've convinced women that unless something is obviously wrong, they should simply push through. And I think that's one of the biggest disservices we've done in healthcare. Because here's the reality: feeling different doesn't automatically mean something is dangerous, but it does mean something deserves curiosity. Those are two different things. I don't want women to panic every time they have a symptom. I also don't want them to dismiss themselves before anyone has taken a chance to really listen to them. There's a middle ground. It's curiosity. Instead of asking what's wrong with me, I like asking what's changed. That's a very different conversation. When I meet someone for the first time, one of my favorite questions isn't tell me your symptoms. It's what changed first. Sometimes there's silence. Sometimes they'll say, I've never really thought about it. And then we start walking backwards. When did your sleep change? When did your energy change? When did your periods become different? When did your workout stop feeling the same? When did your anxiety begin? When did your digestion change? When did you stop feeling like yourself? It's amazing how often women begin connecting the dots they had never connected before. Because here's what usually happens. They've seen one provider for headaches, another for reflux, another for anxiety, and another for weight gain, another for heavy periods, and another for insomnia. Every symptom has been looked at individually. Very few people have stepped back and asked, what if these aren't separate problems? The question changes everything. One of my favorite parts of medicine is playing detective, not because I'm trying to find some rare diagnosis, but because I'm trying to understand the story. Imagine someone dumped a thousand piece puzzle on your kitchen table. You wouldn't start by staring at one piece and decide what the picture was. You'd look for patterns, you'd find the edges, you'd group smaller or similar pieces together. You'd slowly begin seeing the image emerge. That's exactly how I think about health. Sleep isn't separate from hormones. Hormones aren't separate from metabolism. Metabolism isn't separate from muscle. Muscle isn't separate from inflammation. Stress isn't separate from digestion. Everything influences everything else. That doesn't mean every symptom has one single cause, but it does mean our bodies work as integrated systems, not isolated organs. That's one of the biggest mindset shifts in integrative medicine. Instead of asking which symptom should we treat, we ask what system isn't functioning the way it used to. And that brings me to something I think creates a lot of confusion, because this usually is the point where women tell me, but my doctor said my labs were normal.

What “Normal Labs” Miss

Speaker 9:55

Let's talk about that. First, I want to be very clear. Normal labs are valuable. I order labs almost every day. I believe in laboratory testing. I believe in evidence-based medicine. This isn't a conversation about ignoring labs. It's about understanding what they can and cannot tell us. A laboratory result answers a very specific question. It tells us what was happening at the moment your blood was drawn. That's incredibly useful. But it doesn't always tell us the entire story. Let me give you an example. Imagine I took one photograph of the ocean, just one picture. Can I tell you whether the tide was coming in or going out? No. Hormones can be similar, especially during perimenopause. One normal FSH doesn't tell me what happened last month. One estradiol level doesn't tell me how much is fluctuating throughout the cycle. One cortisol level doesn't tell me what your entire day looked like. One thyroid value doesn't always explain why someone feels the way they do. That's why medicine has never been about treating numbers. It's about caring for people. The labs are one piece of the puzzle. Your history is another. Your symptoms matter. Your timeline matters. How your body has changed matters. When we put those pieces together, we begin to understand the whole picture.

Symptoms As Information Not Failure

Speaker 11:25

One of the biggest mistakes I think we make in healthcare is believing that symptoms are the problem. I don't see symptoms that way. I see symptoms as information. Think about it this way. If the check engine light comes on in your car, you don't put a piece of tape over the light and pretend everything is fine. Maybe you did in college. You don't always immediately assume the engine needs to be replaced. You become curious. You ask, why did the light come on? Our bodies work the same way. Fatigue is information, brain fog is information, anxiety is information, weight gain is information, joint pain is information. Poor sleep is information. They are not your body working against you. They're often your body trying to communicate with you. Now that doesn't mean every symptom has a simple answer. Sometimes it's hormones, sometimes it's thyroid, sometimes it's iron deficiency, sometimes it's insulin resistance, sometimes it's chronic stress, and sometimes it's several things happening at the same time. That's why I don't believe in guessing. I believe in understanding. This is where I think women get stuck. Most women are looking for the answer. One answer, one diagnosis, one supplement, one hormone, one magic lab test. But our bodies are rarely that simple. Imagine an orchestra. If one violin is out of tune, the entire performance changes. If the percussion is off, everything feels different. The solution isn't always replacing one instrument. Sometimes it's bringing the entire orchestra back into harmony. That's how I think about healthcare. I'm not chasing symptoms. I'm asking which system is struggling and how is that affecting everything else? Because hormones influence sleep, sleep influences insulin sensitivity, insulin influences inflammation, inflammation influences pain. Pain influences movement. Movement influences muscle. Muscle influences metabolism. Everything is connected. When you understand that, your health suddenly starts making a lot more sense.

What To Stop Doing Now

Speaker 13:50

What I want women to stop doing after listening to today's episode, the first, stop assuming every symptom is simply part of getting older. Aging is real, perimenopause is real, menopause is real, but struggling isn't automatically inevitable. There's a difference between normal aging and optimal aging. I don't expect my patients to feel 25 forever, but I do expect them to feel vibrant, strong, clear headed, capable, independent. Those are realistic goals. The second thing, stop waiting until things become unbearable before asking questions. Your body usually gives you months, sometimes years of small signals. Listen to them. You don't have to wait until your symptoms become severe before they're worthy of attention. And finally, stop comparing yourself to everyone else. One woman may notice sleep changes first, another notices anxiety, another notices stubborn weight gain, another notices joint pain. There's no universal timeline. There's only your story. That's why personalized medicine matters. So what should you do? If you're listening today and thinking this sounds exactly like me, don't panic. But don't ignore yourself either. Start paying attention. Ask yourself, when did I first notice this? What changed first? Has my sleep changed? My energy? My recovery? My mood, my cycle, my body composition, my ability to handle stress. Write those things down. Patterns are much easier to recognize when you see them over time. Then have a conversation with someone who's willing to look at the whole picture, not just one symptom, not just one lab, the whole story, because that's where answers often begin.

Listen Early And Share This

Speaker 15:56

I want to leave you with one final thought. If there's one thing I hope you remember from this episode, it's this. Your body is not working against you. It's communicating with you. Every symptom, every change, every whisper is information. Sometimes we don't like the message. Sometimes it's frustrating. Sometimes it's confusing. But it is still communication. And I think one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is learning to listen before our body has to start shouting. If you've been feeling like you don't recognize yourself lately, I want you to know something. You're not failing, you're not lazy, you're not imagining it. You deserve to understand what's happening. You deserve someone who listens, and you deserve a healthcare conversation that goes beyond everything looks normal. Because sometimes the most important question isn't what's wrong with me. It's what is my body trying to tell me? I truly believe that's where a different kind of health care begins. Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to share it with another woman who may have quietly said to herself, I don't feel like myself anymore. Sometimes knowing you're not alone is the first step towards healing. And if you haven't already, be sure to follow HealthSpan on Her Terms so you don't miss future conversations about hormones, metabolism, sleep, longevity, and learning how to feel your best for decades to come. Until next time, I'm Dr. Sheri Erwin. Have a great rest of your day.